If You’re Happy and You Know It Clap Your Hands! (clap clap)


I work at the headquarters of an oilfield chemical company, at the front desk. I get to see everyone who enters the building, and leaves the building (unless they sneak out a side door)…. From my desk there are 2 long hallways, one right in front of where I sit, and the other to the left. People come and go, always saying hello or goodbye, or stopping to make small talk. Wait, did I mention our office is in an old nursing home? Our facility had a fire a while back and this is our temporary location… Anyways, back to the story, err, blog. I promise I have a point to all this. So, I really love my job. Everyone seems happy and friendly, but one person stands out from the rest. Her name is Marianne, and she is such a sweet, funny, kind lady. Sometimes when she walks by my desk, which is tall and round, she starts kneeling like she is walking downstairs, or coming upstairs… She is always so so stinking happy! She just laughs and jokes and is always so polite and so friendly. She is just a wonderful, Jesus loving, gracious Godly woman.

One day I stated how happy she is, all the time, and her simple response made me stop and think- “It’s much better than the alternative”. How simple and true is that? This sounds ridiculous, but I then started looking at different blogs and such about happiness, how to be happy, and why be happy. Basically the conclusion is, WHY NOT???

How to be happy- Choose to be happy. Happiness is a choice. I am Facebook friends with several people who are always gloom and doom. I can’t imagine constantly living in a state of “gloom”. Every post is something about a car driving too slow in front of them, or the lines being too long at a store or there’s too much sugar in the kool-aid, okay, maybe not that one, but seriously, it’s always something. I ended up “unfriending” them all simply because they were making me aggravated and almost mad every stinking time I signed on. We are all part of a bigger plan, God is in control of it all. Maybe He is trying to teach them patience? Maybe I just need to clean out my life of all the sadness and hatred? Who knows. There is no reason to worry and get all worked up(well, not too much). We will worry, we will be sad, we will be angry… Just don’t let it consume you. Honestly, lately, I have turned to prayer a LOT more than I really ever have, and God always provides. Whether we choose to believe it or not, He’s got this. Just let him take care of it, and don’t worry, be happy!!! It’s much better than the alternative.


Allll over again

Is it weird to say I feel new? I am far from new, I mean, I’m 30 for heaven’s sake!

I have been a mom for 12 1/2 years, and I still find myself in total awe of my daughter, more and more lately as she is growing in to a beautiful, smart, very funny and sarcastic young woman. It’s like a new start lately, and I just can’t get enough. She is going to a Winter Formal dance this year at her school, and she looks so grown up and so gorgeous in her dress! I can’t believe how grown up she is.


I also have found myself falling in love with my husband all over again. We have been together for a little over a year, and married for only 4 1/2 months. Is it too soon to fall in love again? I am new at this, but I absolutely love it! It’s almost like, I have found a different love for him? If that makes sense at all…. Before, I loved him for the kind, caring, God loving, providing man that he is. And he still is all of those things. I just see it a little different now. It is so much deeper than ever. He will give anything in the whole world to make sure Makenna and I are taken care of, and happy as we can be. Worldly possessions seem to mean nothing to him anymore, as long as we are together and happy. He wants our emotional being as well as physical to be in the best state it can be. He even lets me go on these crazes and goes along with them 🙂 Right now we are giving the “Clean Eating” thing a shot. He is fully on board. I think I could ask for a circus in the backyard and he would make it happen. I really couldn’t ask for anyone better to be by my side for the rest of my life! For the first few months of our marriage, I think I was just in shock that I was actually married… Weird? Being married is something I thought would never happen. EVER. And then Andy came along, and it has been so stinking easy ever since. And what I mean by easy is, emotionally easy. I knew he was the one after our first few conversations in the store I worked at. Then we dates, got engaged, planned a wedding, then skipped it all and eloped! So, maybe you can understand that when I say that I was in shock, it isn’t a bad thing. I feel like I can finally breathe, and I can’t get enough of it!

We have been having the “expanding the family” discussion lately. I have been the one wanting to expand soon, I mean, I am 30 already! But more recently part of me wants to be a little selfish and just enjoy my husband and daughter for a while longer. We will see! 😉


A few of my favorite things….

Hi, my name is Melissa, and I have a large complicated issue with commitment. Now first let me explain, I don’t mean an issue with personal relationships with actual people. I am married!! But I can’t seem to commit to ideas, or even objects. My favorite food you ask? Answer: A lot of it. The thought of committing to one food scares the life out of me! What if some stranger that I am destined to be best friends with asks me about my favorite food, and I say “Lasagna, I LOVE lasagna, it is my absolute favorite food!” Then the next day I eat, oh let’s say, meatloaf… And it is the absolute best meatloaf EVER in the history of meatloaf… and now that is my favorite food. I am a liar and said future friends pegs me as a liar. Friend gone. Okay, so maybe it’s not that extreme, but I just can’t say that much of anything is my “favorite”. I do, however, LOVE purple. Most all shades are elegant and beautiful. You can do anything with it, and it is just absolutely wonderful! I consider it a happy color. So, of all things in life, (other than people) my favorite thing is purple… I also love baths. A good long bath is great. And a great haircut. There is just something about walking out of a salon rockin a new style that makes you feel like a total sexy bad mama jama(sp?). The next day is a whole other story. What magic power do stylists have that enables them to style your hair in a way you can NEVER copy? They can use the same exact stinking straightener, curling iron, blow dryer, everything. And after the first wash, you wear it in a pony tail because you screwed it up trying to replicate it. I am currently trying to grow my hair out, and it’s in a weird stage, so I will post a pic of my past favorite cut.
Fave hair

Maybe I should chop it off again? Okay so basically what we have learned today is this- I am home sick and my lack of sleep and high dose of medication made up a random post. yeah, we will blame the meds.

Not an organized, exercising reader……

I am still throwing the idea of a new blog around, but I figure until then, why not try to keep up with this one?? Looking back on 2013, along with everyone else I’m sure, I can’t believe how freakin great it was! I fell in love, moved back to my home town, found a job at a very family oriented company, and got married!
I not only gained the most perfect partner to be by my side, but my daughter also gained a wonderful dad. We are teaching each other how to be patient for sure 🙂 I wont lie, it hasn’t been the most easy thing to do, since it has been just her and I for 11 years before we met him, and he has been a bachelor most of his life, but it has definitely been worth it! The gains have been much much better than the trials, and it will only get better. 

I’m not really one to stick with new Year’s Resolutions, but then I always had the “lose 50 lbs in 4 months”, or “get completely organized”, oh and, “read a book a month” type of goals.pssshhh, anyone that knows me knows I have really great intentions, but I probably wont change my ways much… and i’m not an organized, exercising reader… this year I am going to go about it a little different.

#1. This year, at some point in January, I want to start the “clean eating” thing. I think it will be much easier and better than any diet out there. Basically you eat the same things you eat now, just without all the fake stuff in it.

#2. Take our very first family vacation.

#3. More girls days with my daughter. It seems the busier I get the more this area suffers :-/

#4. Be a better influence of what kind of woman I want my daughter to be. If she doesn’t see it, I can’t expect her to know…

#5. Be the wife Andy deserves.

#6. Learn to keep my big mouth shut and my heart and mind open.

#7. Be a better friend. To everyone.

#8…. Keep up this stinking blog thing! (hey, at least the first 7 are do-able 🙂

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!